Why You Should Let Go of Expectations – Covert Contracts and Their Destructive Power
The quid pro quo approach doesn’t work I remember the anger coursing through me like lightning in my veins. I felt like a former coworker had stabbed me in the back, going against my plans for a project I was leading. I wanted to implement a simple solution, but she had decided on a more […]
Drowning in the Shallows – How Our Fear of Vulnerability is Killing Us
Develop the superpower of authenticity to stand out in a world full of phonies There’s an epidemic threatening humanity. A trail of broken careers, friendships, and marriages lingers in its wake. What is this threat? Our fear of vulnerability. “I let people see the cracks in my life. We can’t be phony. We’ve got to […]
One Alarmingly Easy Way to Stop Believing in Yourself
To trust yourself, you must be trustworthy It’s a little embarrassing, really. Even though I’ve committed to publishing at least one blog post per week, this is my first post in a month. While I could make excuses – I’d probably call them reasons – why I haven’t published in 4 weeks, I won’t. Excusing […]
Nope
I Refuse to Tolerate These Risks to My Personal Growth Any Longer I was in my mid-thirties when I realized I had no clue who the hell I was. If you were to ask me – which no one ever does, by the way. Seriously, who walks up to someone and blurts out “Who are […]
One Guaranteed Way to Make People Like You
…while making you hate yourself I wasn’t one of the cool kids in high school. Unathletic, I didn’t do any sports. I didn’t find my abilities on the guitar until college. I spent most of my time working on cars and being too scared to talk to girls. Looking back on it now, I really […]