Why You Should Let Go of Expectations – Covert Contracts and Their Destructive Power
The quid pro quo approach doesn’t work I remember the anger coursing through me like lightning in my veins. I felt like a former coworker had stabbed me in the back, going against my plans for a project I was leading. I wanted to implement a simple solution, but she had decided on a more […]
Startlingly Simple Ways to Improve Your Self-Talk and Your Life
These subtle changes made me a more positive person I used to be an incredibly negative person, with a keen ability to find the cloud behind every silver lining. My negativity cost me, sacrificing my peace, relationships, and even professional opportunities. The root of the problem, for me, was my internal dialogue. That still, small […]
Drowning in the Shallows – How Our Fear of Vulnerability is Killing Us
Develop the superpower of authenticity to stand out in a world full of phonies There’s an epidemic threatening humanity. A trail of broken careers, friendships, and marriages lingers in its wake. What is this threat? Our fear of vulnerability. “I let people see the cracks in my life. We can’t be phony. We’ve got to […]
Why You Need to Let Others Help You Right Now
You’re missing out if you aren’t accepting help I remember standing there, awash in emotions, struggling with the concept of receiving help, support, and love from so many people. A recent recipient of a brain cancer diagnosis, I wrestled to come to terms with my medical condition while struggling to end my 25-year marriage. My […]
One Alarmingly Easy Way to Stop Believing in Yourself
To trust yourself, you must be trustworthy It’s a little embarrassing, really. Even though I’ve committed to publishing at least one blog post per week, this is my first post in a month. While I could make excuses – I’d probably call them reasons – why I haven’t published in 4 weeks, I won’t. Excusing […]
Live Like You Were Living: From Survivor to Thriver
Don’t wait until you’re dying to start living Although it seems everyone I know loves it, I can’t stand it. The popular Tim McGraw country song titled Live Like You Were Dying came out in 2004. The lyrics struck me as cheesy. The gist of the song is that the singer receives a life-threatening diagnosis […]
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I Refuse to Tolerate These Risks to My Personal Growth Any Longer I was in my mid-thirties when I realized I had no clue who the hell I was. If you were to ask me – which no one ever does, by the way. Seriously, who walks up to someone and blurts out “Who are […]
These Didn’t Help: 3 Unsupportive Things People Told Me During My Brain Cancer Battle
You may want to avoid these if you’re trying to support someone with cancer I remember standing at the computer trying to focus. Trying to breathe. Trying to find the strength to survive the next second. I was staring at a screen displaying two side-by-side MRI images, one showing the lesion from one month ago […]
Zombie Feelings: Why You Must Experience the Full Range of Human Emotion
You can’t bury them unless you process them Have you ever felt like your life resembles a zombie movie? Not literally, I’m guessing. I sure hope not. But, what if I asked you if you feel like you’re dragging around a bunch of crap from the past? Crap like thoughts and feelings that pop up […]